MOVING ON

One of my good friends texted me to invite me to meet up with other friends on this Christmas day. Earlier, I got a call from another friend for an early dinner tonight. I decided I won't be going. I was feeling sick and ailing from some coughing and a slight cold. My voice has been somewhat hoarse. I was feeling a bit this way yesterday as I went about with my daily tasks. And while at a parttime job today, I decided I would do my yoga asanas. This is really nothing new; I would be doing yoga at least 5 times a week as long as I don't feel harassed and tired from my daily assignments. Prior today, I had my last yoga asanas at least 4 days ago; my schedule was loaded with so much  assignments I would usually end up looking for ways to have pleasure while in bed as I was feeling so deprived from getting so tired with work. I've been through this many times before. I was reminded by this as I went about doing the poses and deep inhaling and exhaling thru my nostrils. I woul...

My friend Jeff E invited me last year to join him in a Sundance Outdoor Adventure Society 's trip to New Jersey's Pine Barrens (also called Pinelands) but it quickly reached its group limit before we could register ourselves. This time of the year, Jeff invited me again and found out there were just 4 of us who registered for the trip.  Before we started the brief drive to Mullica River from Adams Canoe Rental, I saw a black butterfly hovering around and close by me. I was reminded of superstitious beliefs on seeing such signs, and proceeded to say my prayers. And I thought also that the number '4', which represents the total people in our tiny group, was something of a premonition, i.e., the number 4 is a sign of death for certain cultures like that of the Japanese. And I thought the dark water's foreboding; I usually won't deal with such dark-colored flowing water but decided I should have fun (as this is my present for my birthday last April). ...

I watched this movie on my birthday and have realized that it's a well-fitting movie that also carries a well hidden message to people who may want to move on with their lives. The video, which I got from YouTube, shows some of most famous scenes and with a somewhat jarring and different music background. And the very goodlooking, still young faces of Elizabeth Taylor and Paul Newman can really be distracting. But you may want to watch the whole movie one of these days.  A lot have been said about this movie, which you may also want to check out from so many sources if you also have the chance. But the whole point to me of this movie is for you to get insights on moving on, if in case you're in that stage of your life again. I was smiling when I heard the word 'mendacity' from the film, which word I've not read nor heard about in a long time such that I forgot all about its meaning, until I saw this movie again. Yes, a state of consistent truthfulness, which is ...

Below is a posting of an article that underwent so many changes ever since I decided to write an article on a highly intriguing character I met in my daily readings. As such, I was inspired to share a deleted article that editors from another site where I keep a portfolio of articles have decided to be of poor quality. I've since then re-edited it again, but only to have it deleted one more time. And I had to ask someone in the same site to help me out, where in the process I also had to pour out my heart-felt pain from having a beloved ('you can only imagine how much effort I put into writing down these works you see all the time when I promote them for internet juice' LOL) article deleted. Yes, I can't help but take these things personally. My articles are my babies, in so many respects. And I've since then taken steps to move on from the horrendous experience. In the meantime, I discovered that the topic of the said article happens to be talking about some char...

Moving on continues even in the very minute actions we do each day so as to get over the ugliness of truths from what we used to do as work. I'd be confronted by people from my previous jobs, and they would deal with me as if I'm still doing those jobs many years ago. They behave as if time stood still. But inside our minds we deal with moving on one step at a time and according to our terms, even if in most occasions we dare not admit to that. No matter how outside forces exert their pressure to us, we always end up making the final decision to consider more tentatively, agree with, go along, acquiesce with, or just acknowledge with a mere sigh the presence of these external pressures. And these pressures come in many varieties. We just need to recognize them as they are. What matters most is that we act according to our free will, even in the worst conditions, and we're believing as if we seem to be without any control at all. Or else, the other option is to simply die an...

It didn't occur to me until now that part and parcel of the much vented out topic here in this blogsite is what we call "reinventing your look." An online friend happened to give feedback to my article How to reinvent your look and she said: Thank you for this article. it was very easy to understand. i think i might go about reinventing myself. i want to keep my same identity, i just want to improve a little, ok.maybe a lot, at least 2o lbs. Hence, this blog appears here, and I'll give credit to my friend (whose identity I'm not revealing here as I didn't tell her I'd use her feedback in this blogsite). I'm more than happier knowing that one person has been made more aware to work on herself so she'll actually "reinvent" herself. The process is not at all frivolous - it's one important step to overcome your past (especially the ugly, horrendous looking portions). It's a process and it takes time. In the meanwhile, enjoy yours...

Watch the above video (courtesy of Victor Velasco) first, and try to recall, if you've got one, perhaps among many kinds, of having been found yourself in a "whirlwind" of an experience. Or even the experience of having been sort of cleansed by the purifying feel of the wind. click on the title for more...

I received two messages last week from friends who indicated how they've been missing me. I've been writing about "moving-on" themes in this blog - and it's not been always that easy. It's in fact one of the concerns of most people who have to move from one phase in life to another. And each one has something significant to say about it. No matter how much counseling or help you'll get on "moving-on," it's still going to be painful. Transitions involve changes, and we humans detest changes intrinsically - it's never fun and easy. Hence, we need company as we journey in life, at least to help lighten the load. And company can be had from people who have similar interests as yours, and preferably, who are in similar phase in life (that may switch any time soon). (click on the title for more...)

Diversity will always be an asset to any organization, as long as it's recognized as such. If you're a businessperson willing to take risks, one area where you can focus your efforts on is to hire from a diverse pool of people, as long as you personally like them. It's always a smart move to recruit people who are different from you, and who will complement your own strengths and weaknesses - you simply can't do everything. Of course, this is difficult to do, as your ego will always distract you from what the real and critical issues are when you do recruitment. And it's more of a big challenge is you're a control freak. click on the title for more...

Depending on the composition and clarity of your personal goals, going back to school after you have been laid off may give you long term benefits later in your career and in life as a whole. Also, you may look forward to being rewarded more handsomely with better choices on which directions to take. Of course, pursuing your studies may not be among the most acceptable trail to follow on what we describe as "taking the path of least resistance" -it has its built-in difficulties to face-but those who pursue this path may encounter valuable lessons that are necessary in later stages in life. Please click here to continue reading.

[Ed's palabok, awesome with red wine, while conversing with him, & getting distracted by what's online!] At yesterday's visit to my friend from highschool, Ed Quiambao, he surprised me again by going out of his way to prepare his home-cooked pancit palabok , his version. Ed ought to seriously consider putting up a food business anytime soon, I went kidding him, which I hope he'd take action soon as he's a happy cook. His wife, Vicky, did all the prep works, while Ed and I were chatting. Click on the link found anywhere here in this posting so you'd get details on how to prepare your own pancit palabok. I'll share here what went on as we ventured into having our dinner last night. As we talked about the travails and joys of immigrating to the US, specifically here in NYC, he was soon making the sauce. He added in oil and grounded achuete in the pan for the sauce. Stirring in the sauce while it's slowly being cooked, he soon finished it by straining a...