On Asking to be Treated Better by an Asshole of a Boss/Owner
I'm writing this to share my thoughts and feelings over what happened early this morning. I finally gave up this new job in a new flower and gift shop in Chelsea, Manhattan. [Mind you, I like the job, but I've learned to hate the ones working with me, particularly in this case, the Boss / Business Owner].
My boss and I have been working on the weekly arrangement for a corporate account that happens to be a restaurant blocks away from the Flower Market District and the Empire State Building. Earlier, the parttime Designer had to leave work right away for an emergency. Then, as usual started a miserable hour with my boss who's also the other half of a couple of owners of this new shop. She was already behaving like she was really pissed off of something really unclear to me (as much as I'd like to figure out, I just prayed & hoped things will turn out well according to God's plan).
She asked about what we've done so far. I told her I was just waiting for the parttime Designer's instructions, and then she asked what time I arrived. We continued working. She then harped on the length of the Magnolia branches that she thought earlier were not the exact branches she ordered. She showed how upset she was over how short I've had the branches cut off by the supplier. She even demonstrated how really bad they were. I remembered also how she harped on my failure to prepare in the bucket the green plastic water dispenser. I didn't really say anything significant in turn. I was really getting tense over her behavior at work then. Also, I've felt like I was being treated like a stupid worker, so I just went on working.
Of course, somehow, I felt that she has tried to keep her cool, for we've worked together for over 2 months now, and we've tried to work as a team, given her limitations in supervising people whom she may think may be below her kind or at the worst, level of intelligence (which speaks much of her character actually, than anything else).
Looking back now, I realize how she's still has so much to learn to take good care of her people, particularly in making loads easier for them, whenever necessary. Of course, she has been really helpful at times. But she can really get so upset over many little things, which she can claim or by others can claim, to be "attention to detail." The trouble with this notion is that it's usually VERY UNCLEAR to others who work for these Managers/Leaders/Owners/Stakeholders/Person-in-Authority about what exactly are the details that are worth looking more closely upon, at all times, or variations, unless they get to be in their path of thinking (that have to be figured out most times). It's really a damn if you do, and damn if you don't kind of situation.
We were soon about to finish work. I asked if I should break down the dirty branches and old flowers now in a bundle. Then she harped again about something that sounded like "of course" to me, and went on to say some other things which were not really unnecessary, given the circumstances that we were in that time. I then told her, probably in a loud voice, that she should treat me well. I didn't know if she was surprised or whatever. She then asked me to lower down my voice, as there are other people in the area (2 guys, plus the chef were in the area discussing on something). I got so so mad, and told her, I'm giving up the job. I rushed to put on my jacket and then grabbed my bag. I went back again to give her the receipt of the branches which I got from the supplier. I told her, or I must have shouted at her that I'd be back on Saturday to get my pay.
On my way out, my other boss, or the other partner of the couple of owners, called me up, and I answered him. He wanted to know what happened. I must have really showed how angry I was, as I shouted out that I wanted to be treated better, and not be treated shabbily even though as I was just being paid just that much by the hour.
Thankfully, I was able to make it to the nearest church of St Francis of Assisi. I proceeded then to continue praying at St John the Baptist Church.
My boss and I have been working on the weekly arrangement for a corporate account that happens to be a restaurant blocks away from the Flower Market District and the Empire State Building. Earlier, the parttime Designer had to leave work right away for an emergency. Then, as usual started a miserable hour with my boss who's also the other half of a couple of owners of this new shop. She was already behaving like she was really pissed off of something really unclear to me (as much as I'd like to figure out, I just prayed & hoped things will turn out well according to God's plan).
She asked about what we've done so far. I told her I was just waiting for the parttime Designer's instructions, and then she asked what time I arrived. We continued working. She then harped on the length of the Magnolia branches that she thought earlier were not the exact branches she ordered. She showed how upset she was over how short I've had the branches cut off by the supplier. She even demonstrated how really bad they were. I remembered also how she harped on my failure to prepare in the bucket the green plastic water dispenser. I didn't really say anything significant in turn. I was really getting tense over her behavior at work then. Also, I've felt like I was being treated like a stupid worker, so I just went on working.
Of course, somehow, I felt that she has tried to keep her cool, for we've worked together for over 2 months now, and we've tried to work as a team, given her limitations in supervising people whom she may think may be below her kind or at the worst, level of intelligence (which speaks much of her character actually, than anything else).
Looking back now, I realize how she's still has so much to learn to take good care of her people, particularly in making loads easier for them, whenever necessary. Of course, she has been really helpful at times. But she can really get so upset over many little things, which she can claim or by others can claim, to be "attention to detail." The trouble with this notion is that it's usually VERY UNCLEAR to others who work for these Managers/Leaders/Owners/Stakeholders/Person-in-Authority about what exactly are the details that are worth looking more closely upon, at all times, or variations, unless they get to be in their path of thinking (that have to be figured out most times). It's really a damn if you do, and damn if you don't kind of situation.
We were soon about to finish work. I asked if I should break down the dirty branches and old flowers now in a bundle. Then she harped again about something that sounded like "of course" to me, and went on to say some other things which were not really unnecessary, given the circumstances that we were in that time. I then told her, probably in a loud voice, that she should treat me well. I didn't know if she was surprised or whatever. She then asked me to lower down my voice, as there are other people in the area (2 guys, plus the chef were in the area discussing on something). I got so so mad, and told her, I'm giving up the job. I rushed to put on my jacket and then grabbed my bag. I went back again to give her the receipt of the branches which I got from the supplier. I told her, or I must have shouted at her that I'd be back on Saturday to get my pay.
On my way out, my other boss, or the other partner of the couple of owners, called me up, and I answered him. He wanted to know what happened. I must have really showed how angry I was, as I shouted out that I wanted to be treated better, and not be treated shabbily even though as I was just being paid just that much by the hour.
Thankfully, I was able to make it to the nearest church of St Francis of Assisi. I proceeded then to continue praying at St John the Baptist Church.
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