Some Moving On Ramblings After Experiencing Being an Indirect Object of Prejudice by Another Filipino
I'm still somewhat affected by what I heard from a cousin told me while we were heading back from our trip upstate NY to New Jersey. Of course, he meant well but I'm still somewhat disturbed that certain people couldn't help but be prejudiced against gay people like myself. I won't repeat anymore the details here as they're still hurting.
Suffice it to say that one of my cousin's friends shared him what she's thought of me as a person because she, most probably, couldn't stand my being a gay person. Of course, she added that she has her own share of gay friends, who apparently are not like me. And, of course, she didn't tell me directly---most Filipinos won't do that. They do it through channels, which was just like what she did when she told her husband who is also a friend of my cousin, on what she thought of me. I happened to have accepted their invite for me to sleep at their place in New Jersey, and she apparently doubted if my cousin and myself are authentic cousins, and that she was apprehensive that I would do something untoward to their 3 children while being in their house.
Oh, well, some people can be mean. And they include me. I have thought of really mean things about her, which I blurted out as soon as I heard the details of the story from my cousin. At this point, it does not matter anymore. I have decided I'll make the best of the situation. Who really knows, she and I can be friends in due time?
For now, I am learning from lessons that can be drawn from these experiences. I don't know that woman really and it was my first time to meet her. She's just disappointing as she and my late Father are both from Pangasinan province of the Philippines. I do hope she learns how to expand her thoughts far more wider and deeper when it comes to dealing with others, including her husband, children and other relatives. Here's a video that can probably help me out of feeling negative about this sad experience:
Suffice it to say that one of my cousin's friends shared him what she's thought of me as a person because she, most probably, couldn't stand my being a gay person. Of course, she added that she has her own share of gay friends, who apparently are not like me. And, of course, she didn't tell me directly---most Filipinos won't do that. They do it through channels, which was just like what she did when she told her husband who is also a friend of my cousin, on what she thought of me. I happened to have accepted their invite for me to sleep at their place in New Jersey, and she apparently doubted if my cousin and myself are authentic cousins, and that she was apprehensive that I would do something untoward to their 3 children while being in their house.
Oh, well, some people can be mean. And they include me. I have thought of really mean things about her, which I blurted out as soon as I heard the details of the story from my cousin. At this point, it does not matter anymore. I have decided I'll make the best of the situation. Who really knows, she and I can be friends in due time?
For now, I am learning from lessons that can be drawn from these experiences. I don't know that woman really and it was my first time to meet her. She's just disappointing as she and my late Father are both from Pangasinan province of the Philippines. I do hope she learns how to expand her thoughts far more wider and deeper when it comes to dealing with others, including her husband, children and other relatives. Here's a video that can probably help me out of feeling negative about this sad experience:
Post by Tonya Davidson.
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